Hey everyone, this is my first time posting here, and I really need some insight.
So, I’ve been in a happy relationship for a little over a year now. But before this, I had this situationship with a guy—it was short, messy, and didn’t last even a month. I’m not even sure if I seriously liked him back then, but things ended badly, and I cut him off.
Here’s where it gets weird: he keeps showing up in my dreams. At first, I thought it was just a one-time, random thing. But he’s appeared so many times now, and it’s been happening for over a year. Last night, he showed up again, and there was even a time when I dreamed about him for three consecutive nights!
For context, he’s also been messaging me on and off this past year (I ignore him, and my boyfriend knows about it). He was my first—the guy I lost my v-card to (well, not full intercourse, but you get the point). Could that have anything to do with it? Like, are soul ties even real?
It’s confusing because I’ve had other flings before him, and I was with some of those people longer, but none of them show up in my dreams like this.
Why does he keep appearing? Does it mean something deeper, or is it just my subconscious being annoying? I’m happy in my current relationship, so I don’t get why this is happening.
Dreams can be tricky, especially when they involve unresolved feelings or significant experiences. The fact that this guy keeps popping up in your dreams, despite you being happy in your current relationship, might not mean you’re secretly longing for him or anything dramatic like that. Instead, it could be your subconscious trying to process the messy way things ended or the emotional weight tied to him being your “first.”
Even if you don’t consciously think about him, those kinds of connections can leave an imprint—especially if there’s unresolved tension, like his continued attempts to contact you. It’s less about “soul ties” and more about your brain replaying unfinished business.
Your happiness in your current relationship is what matters most. If these dreams bother you, it might help to consciously acknowledge any lingering feelings (even if they’re just frustration or annoyance) and mentally “close the door” on that chapter. Sometimes, writing it out or talking it through can help your brain let go and move on fully. Dreams don’t define how you feel—they’re just your mind’s way of working through stuff.
