I keep having these dreams about my first love, and it’s driving me nuts. Like, this guy just won’t leave me alone, even in my sleep. We were together for, what, a month when I was 16? But man, I was obsessed. He was my first kiss, my first real hug from a guy who wasn’t family, all those little milestones. Then he dumped me because I was ‘too depressed,’ and it shattered me. I spent years hung up on him, even though he’d ghost me, pop back up, flirt, then disappear again. It was this toxic cycle, and I couldn’t let go.
“Fast forward to now—I’m 24, in a loving relationship with an amazing guy I’ve been with for over two years. I’m happy, I’m secure, and I can totally see a future with him. But lately, these dreams about my first love keep popping up. In the dreams, we’re catching up, walking around town, taking pictures, just being kids again. It’s like all these feelings are rushing back, and it’s really messing with me. I don’t want him back—I’m happy where I am—but part of me wants to reach out, not to cheat or anything, just to see if he’s had the same dreams. It’s so stupid, but I can’t shake it. What do these dreams even mean?
Dreaming about your first love often represents unresolved emotions or a subconscious reflection on how that relationship shaped you. It’s not necessarily about wanting them back but about revisiting a time of intense emotions and milestones. Since he was your first love and left such a deep mark on your younger self, your dreams might symbolize lingering questions or feelings you never fully processed, even though you’ve moved on.
The fact that you’re in a happy, secure relationship now could be why these dreams feel so confusing. They might not be about him at all but rather about reconnecting with parts of your past self—your growth, your vulnerability, or even the lessons you’ve learned about love and self-worth. Reaching out isn’t necessary, especially since the dreams are likely more about your inner world than him. Trust your current happiness and view the dreams as a sign of how far you’ve come, rather than a pull backward.
